I just had a brainwave today.
So today I was having lunch with Ann in the city and we were just talking about different personalities and how some personalities respond to or perceive things in a different way. It really made me think about myself and how I may be perceived.
Pastor Gerad has said in the past has said that if one wants friends then one must show themselves to be friendly. I think I have come along way from my past from my self proclaimed introvertism. (Haha, I just read this post again and it made me laugh. Wow, 4 years ago…) God has definately changed me alot since those days. I proberly wouldn’t call myself an introvert anymore (or at least I’ve moved away from the introvertism side of the scale a little more) and I think it has alot with me growing in God Confidence, feeling more secure in myself and who He has created me to be. I feel alot more comfortable being in my own skin. I also realised that me being the shy, quiet girl I used to be wasn’t going to help anyone get to know the saving grace of Jesus.
I think I have become alot more friendlier than I used to be. I also have alot more friends than those early days. So what Pastor Gerad said worked. When I started to get God confidence on the inside and started to be friendlier to people I started to actually make friends. I actually started to grow to like being around people. No longer did I want to work in front of a computer in a cubical so I didn’t have to deal with people, I actually started to enjoy human interaction. God is so good how He can totally change a persons life. Sometimes I reflect back on my own journey and am totally amazed by God’s outworking in my own life. Everything I am and have now is because of Him.
Anyways as I was saying earlier, I had this total brainwave. I’ve been reading 1 Corinthians and in 9:22 and it says in reference to sharing about God:
To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all men so that by all possible means I might save some.
So I’m like thinking, maybe I overwhelm people by my friendliness sometimes. And for some more quieter types people it doesn’t really help them to relate to me if I am too enthusiastic. They just don’t know how to respond. My (also self proclaimed) ‘introvert’ friend Dave, said to me that if he didn’t know me or know what I am like; and had just met me he would, and I put this in his words: “…kind of back off, not because you are scary but because I am not good with girls to begin with and i think it will feel like a lot of pressure or burden for me to have think how to deal with this type of person…” Gosh I love his honesty!
Paul says in that scripture that to the weak he became the weak. So my thought is, maybe I need to modify my enthusiasm a bit depending on the person. To the quiet person I need to be a quieter person.
I’m not talking about a lobotomy here, I’m just talking in terms of relating to people. Conversations. Actions. Still being the same person but seeing the situation, being flexible and working with it. Every weekend I’m meeting new people, trying to connect people to the life of whats happening at church, it makes sense to be flexible in that way.
Everyone is different. We all perceive things differently. And sometimes friendliness can be perceived to someone who isn’t used to it, as the other person wanting something back in return. Have you ever heard someone say “Oh you look great today!” and the other person looks at them and responds “Okay, what do you want??” As if being nice to someone costs something and a favor is expected in return.
We are not friendly to visitors who come to church because we want to sell them God as if He is a product to be sold, we are friendly because they are people and they have value. We are courteous and friendly because we really care about them. We see a bigger picture. We learn to see people through Gods eyes and they are priceless to Him.
I received an email from my friend Esther during the week and in it she addressed me as the ‘smiley-face exclaimation girl’ When I read it, it made me laugh out loud because I guess in that moment I realised it was true. In my emails (or for those of you who know me, the long email/essays, hehe) and text messages (usually long as well..) to people, I tend to have alot of exclamation marks and smiley faces… I just didn’t think it was that obvious.. or that I was that consistant about it that people were actually noticing that I do that!
I guess thats why some people will sometimes text me back with the question: Are you having a really good day today??!
Lol.